Q: Think I'm pregnant?

Posted Monday, April 30, 2007 5:05 PM

Q: I have this feeling that we managed to conceive... what should I do first?

A: So exciting! Here are the first things to do when you suspect you're expecting.

Take a Test
...together! It's just not as much fun to find out the good news if one of you is away on business or just got home from a tough day. If you have an inkling, decide together when to take the test, and leave some time to celebrate if the news is good. Many tests say to take them in the morning, but don't do it before work. (Wait until Saturday a.m. if you want to play by the rules.) How could you concentrate on a 9:30 meeting after getting the biggest news of your life?

Keep it Quiet
...for now. This is huge, exciting news -- give yourselves some time to revel in your shared secret for a few days (or weeks). Pick a time to tell the parents (best to wait until you're a few weeks along), and put together a plan. Break the news to both sets of parents with similar timing and fanfare to avoid hurt feelings. As for your friends... common knowledge says, wait until week twelve. But, (with the guidance of our real mom Nesties) we say, do it whenever the time feels right! Just make sure you're prepared for the news to spread quickly -- it's tough for people to keep such exciting news to themselves!

See the Doctor
... now! Chances are, the test was correct and everything is fine... but it's still essential to see your OB/GYN. Call your doc and explain that you're expecting as soon as you know, and schedule your first appointment for whenever she recommends.

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Not necessary to "keep it quiet"

OK, while I appreciate the information, why recommend waiting until the 12th week to announce?  I think this is out of date and just doesn't apply as a general "rule" for couples.  Just my two cents.  Couples should be encouraged to weigh the pros and cons of telling early and then do what's best for them.

Posted by jooliagoolia    Monday, April 30, 2007 5:28 PM


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I agree...I have friends that I would tell just as soon as family, because even if something were to happen, I would want to be able to talk to them about it anyway...

Posted by nosoup4u    Friday, May 04, 2007 3:46 PM


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I second the previous posters- tell people when you want to- there's no right or wrong. I personally oculdn't imagine going through iut without my mom and best friend, no matter what happened.

Posted by sorte07    Monday, May 07, 2007 4:32 PM


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all good points... you're right, 'common thought' says wait until week twelve... but what's the point? thanks for your feedback... we'll tweak the article :)

other nesties -- what do you think about this? any votes for waiting til week 12? 

Posted by Paula K    Tuesday, May 08, 2007 9:08 AM


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I have had many people wait until 12 weeks before they tell people.  Some would rather wait incase something happened.  My friends sister told everyone she was pregnant as soon as she found out - then when she miscarried at 8 weeks she had untell  a lot of people.  The second time she got pregnant she decided to wait and was glad she did.  It was easier to tell people at 10 weeks that she had another miscarriage than what she went through before.  I think that waiting (whether it be 1 week after you find out or when you hit 12 weeks) gives you and your DH time to adjust to expanding your family, discuss how you will do things and what you're limits will be so that when you announce your good news you'll have all that figured out.  

Posted by blondie42107    Tuesday, May 08, 2007 9:40 AM


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I agree with waiting to tell. We told our parents right away, who then went out and told the world. (and in a town with only 1800 people, news travels fast) Then, I found out I had blighted ovums at 9 1/2 weeks. Our families didn't do as great of a job with this news; 2 1/2 months later, at Christmas, there were family members who still thought I was pregnant. The next time around, when we're actually read to have a child, I may not even tell our parents until 10-12 weeks!

Posted by NuGrrlNTwn    Wednesday, May 09, 2007 4:49 PM


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I have had two miscarriages, one at 12 and the other at 6 weeks. The first time we told everyone and then had to untell. The second time, we kept it to only a few people knowing. When and if i get pregnant a 3rd time, were waiting till about 13 weeks or whenever I start showing.

Posted by MrsE0706    Sunday, June 10, 2007 1:41 AM


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Personally, when we got PG with #1 we told everyone the next day; we were so excited! Had a normal pg'cy and delivery. Now he's 2.5. When I got PG with #2 in April we did the same thing. It never occured to me that "I" would miscarry. I was wrong. I m/c'd at 5 weeks and had to tell everyone we lost the baby. It was awful. Now that we are still trying, I am thinking we will hold off until we see or hear a heartbeat. Then we will spread the joy.

Posted by Mrs.OSU2K1!!    Thursday, August 09, 2007 12:40 AM


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Since I recently had a miscarriage, I can say that originally we were going to hold off on telling our parents, just a few weeks.  Then when I was miscarrying I needed my mom, I was out of state w/o my husband.  Now I am so glad that I had her to support me.  Next time it gives me even more reason to tell her immediatly, I will need someone to talk to about ever "funny feeling".  As for friends I will also tell one or two close friends because I need their support as well.

Posted by j&bmay2006    Sunday, September 16, 2007 9:36 PM


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I haven't had to tell anyone yet because we are still ttc, but I think I will only tell a few select people (other than DH of course!), and that would be one of my SIL, two of my BFs, and my DH family will probably hear, though if something does happen and I m/c, both my SIL will be able to help my though because they both did. I'll just need the support. Work and other friends, and my family will probably wait until we hear the heartbeat. (That's sounds so heartless...his family will hear before mine...and I want it that way!)

Posted by dakinican    Wednesday, October 31, 2007 2:55 PM


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Definately see a doctor immediately- I didn't, due to having read "wait till week 8-10" somewhere, and ended up with a ruptured ectopic pregnancy- the night before I was supposed to leave for my honeymoon! Had I gone to the Dr's when I found out two weeks before, the HGC test would most likely had come back with abnormal levels and they could have dissolved the pregnancy and saved my tube- Hopefully my story can help prevent another woman from going through that torture.

Posted by Tonya_G    Friday, December 07, 2007 10:32 PM


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Waiting until week 12 is not t torture anyone. It is because most miscarriages happen before week 12. That way you don't have to tell everyone that you told you were pregnant already that you unfortunately lost the baby.

Posted by Nicole&Dustin    Friday, March 07, 2008 12:49 PM


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I think that it is a good idea to tell right away anyone who you would want to be there for you if you had a miscarriage.  It is so much more painful to make the phone call that you had a miscarriage if the person never even knew you were pregnant.

Posted by shortl    Monday, March 31, 2008 3:18 PM


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When we found out i was pragnant, i was so happy and told everyone, my hubby asked me to wait, just incase something happened. Well it did, we lost the baby, Yesterday, and i cant imagaing having to go back and tell everyone i lost it. i am gald  i told my mom, when i first got pergnant, so we could go through the joys and saddness together.

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I took a digital EPT test on monday and it was positive and I have my 1st  doctors appt on June 20th. We are very excited and hope all goes well, is it at all possible to get a false positive?

Posted by sarahleigh23    Thursday, June 12, 2008 10:56 AM


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My husband and I decided to start TTC on June 21st I had a period that started on June 24th and ended on July 1st.  Now it has been 38 days since my last period started so I am 10 days late but I took a test on July 20th ( 1 day before missed period) and then again last Friday July 25th (4 days after missed period)  both were negative.  Did I just take the test too soon or could I be preggo?

Posted by jrm1982    Thursday, July 31, 2008 12:19 AM


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I think waiting is the best option.  One of my best friends and sister-in-law were pregnant around the same time. They both told us right away. One miscarried after 14 weeks, and one when into premature labor after 18 weeks. They both were devastated as were we.  They were both able to get pregnant pretty soon after but waited and they both said they were glad they did!  They said it was harder on them the first go round because everyone knew and it made it that much more devastating.

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